How long should No Contact last? An honest answer
21 days, 30, 45, 60 or 90? Where the No Contact numbers come from, what actually decides how long you need, and how to handle low contact when you share kids or a workplace.
Lumi guides
Guides for the days after
Plain, honest help for the part nobody plans for: No Contact, the urge to text at 2 a.m., and the slow work of getting your life back. Written by the team behind Lumi.
No Contact
The No Contact rule: what it is, how it works and how to keep it
What the No Contact rule really is, why it helps after a breakup, how long to keep it, what counts as breaking it and what to do when you slip. Honest and practical.
A No Contact tracker that grows a flower, one leaf a day
Lumi is a No Contact tracker for iPhone and Android: count your days since you last reached out, get through the urge with SOS, and never be shamed for a slip. Free to download.
The urge to text
Getting over it
Plans and stages
A 30-day breakup plan: one small step a day
A day-by-day 30-day plan for after a breakup, in four stages: Survive, Understand, Rediscover, Rebuild. Short daily tasks to stay No Contact and get your life back.
The stages of a breakup, and what helps in each
Breakups do not follow a neat script, but most people move through four broad stages: Survive, Understand, Rediscover, Rebuild. What each feels like and what helps.
